tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post100322275563401557..comments2019-12-27T01:20:26.732-08:00Comments on Cinderella Duty: Mom on strike goes to therapyBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09909707154628608504noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post-66144529941208065082012-11-12T15:18:20.511-08:002012-11-12T15:18:20.511-08:00Wow. i can cross this today of all days and i thi...Wow. i can cross this today of all days and i think you might have just saved me from a disapointing life of sadness. I - just today--flipped out on the kids when after I had spent my one day off doing dishes--come into the living room and find nearly half of them dirty or on the floor. y.My daughter thought it was okay to use them all at some point along the way and I found my oldest (who's 14) at my desk on MY computer without asking and drinking and slopping around on everything. I could take no more. I yelled. I screamed. I did. I admit it. and I felt so bad about it. But i looked at them as disrespecting me and I was done with it. After weeks of me working 50+hours all I want is help to clean a house I am never home to dirty. I have gone on strike and found it was to no avail. And today was that final straw.<br /> Thanks for getting me straight. I don't have to have it all clean. Just take it one part at a time. It is going to get messed up . It always does, but i can't let it tear me apart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post-48852197842388303872012-05-20T20:57:27.013-07:002012-05-20T20:57:27.013-07:00I am so glad you posted this! We have 3 children a...I am so glad you posted this! We have 3 children ages 4,2,1 and I was feeling pretty alone, exhausted, and down right depressed about my house until I stumbled upon this blog! Thanks so much!KWhttp://www.etsy.com/kwbloomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post-42774303888943805152012-04-27T10:55:12.462-07:002012-04-27T10:55:12.462-07:00Your pre-therapy appointment is exactly how I have...Your pre-therapy appointment is exactly how I have been feeling. Just yesterday things were really tough and my bff took my boy while the youngest took a nap, after my breakdown. As badly as I needed a nap what did I do? (After eating my comfort food) I cleaned. Not throughly, just tidied the main rooms and the kitchen counters. Surprisingly, I did feel better after the three hours of quiet and a cleaner home. Not sure I'll ever want to do it, but willing to try. Which is better than what i've thought for the past week. Thanks Becky! Your just what the doctor ordered. Love ya!Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08256411115209465515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post-65116911003815156082012-04-27T08:18:21.897-07:002012-04-27T08:18:21.897-07:00Having our third child was much more overwhelming ...Having our third child was much more overwhelming than the other two, and I found doing housework very stressful because I just expected it to be done as I always did it. With my husband's help we scheduled certain chores for certain days of the week: Monday is bathrooms, Tuesday is clutter spots, Wed and Thurs are laundry days, and Friday is floors. I've found doing chores much more attainable because now I just have one chore in mind for the day to get done, and once it's done, chores are done for the day and I have time to do other things for myself or the kids, or whatever. I need to have a clean house for my own sanity and happiness. For example, I really enjoy cooking dinner, but if the kitchen is a disaster and I have to clean for 30 minutes before I can cook anything, all the enjoyment of cooking is gone and it's become another chore. As I keep a state of relative cleanliness or constant progress, then I am happier, the feeling in our house is more positive, and I feel better about fulfilling my specific roll of "keeping house". Maybe someday I'll post pictures on your mom exhibit because our house is always far from spotless, but I can live with that.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00514222008860538061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post-2359653408465825832012-04-27T08:00:55.707-07:002012-04-27T08:00:55.707-07:00Lately I've been working on making sure I'...Lately I've been working on making sure I'm doing it for the right reasons. Why oh why do I think it's ok for my kids and husband to live in chaos, but for a stranger it has to be great? Shouldn't I WANT it to be nice for the people that I love? So, I've been trying to re-wire myself. I'm doing this because I love my kids, and they really do play nicer and for longer when they start in a clean space. They can find their toys. They aren't stepping on sharp random pieces of plastic. And my husband works hard too, and deserves at least ONE peaceful put together room. The whole house doesn't have to be perfection, but if I can have one space...one room for him to go to do decompress, (and for me to as well) then we'll all be happier. So yeah, that's my thing lately. Doing it for me. Because I deserve serenity. Doing it for my husband, because he works hard too. Doing it for my kids, because I really don't want Ava to end up on hoarders. Some days I'm great at this...others it's an epic fail.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863691982569151849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post-58096695290533158732012-04-27T07:05:26.645-07:002012-04-27T07:05:26.645-07:00Great post, Becky! Thank you for sharing!Great post, Becky! Thank you for sharing!Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08926007737005069168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post-50700463924070417232012-04-27T05:18:26.595-07:002012-04-27T05:18:26.595-07:00This completely sums up a truth Jer and I learned ...This completely sums up a truth Jer and I learned from Dr. John Lund: Unmet expectations lead to frustration. And frustration often leads to anger and hurt feelings. I'm so glad that you were able to make some realistic goals that you can accomplish. :)Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15297661053628123612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7272019554268713085.post-70901595439540402842012-04-27T05:01:50.525-07:002012-04-27T05:01:50.525-07:00When you put it like that, it makes sense. The thi...When you put it like that, it makes sense. The thing with housework is the feeling that they are a chore, something we have to do over and over. i like your therapist - is she taking new clients?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920864212300040383noreply@blogger.com